I Look Like J-Lo and I'm Still Single.

Remember when we went out the other night?? You were wearing jeans that you starved yourself for a month to get into? They made your booty look like J-Lo in heaven. You went home alone that night with not even a number. How is it possible for someone to look this good and still be single? I have one word for you, one word that will change your life forever and it doesn’t involve losing 30 pounds or getting a facelift. Are you ready? C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E. Yes, it is that simple.

I know you are wondering how could it really affect your love life but before you start thinking I’m crazy let’s take a stroll down memory lane. Last week, you were at the grocery store and you looked decent; you’re hair was nice and straight and you were wearing a new outfit and painfully cute shoes. You see this Greek god walking up the aisle and get ready to make your move. Before you can give him the “come and get me” smile this rabid dog gets in the way and plants a huge, sloppy kiss on him. (Rabid Dog: the woman we all look better than but she always gets our men.) Let’s pause for a minute and evaluate what the hell just happened. You look good, she doesn’t. You are single, she has the Greek god. She’s not aesthetically pleasing but she has the one thing you lack, confidence. A man doesn’t want a woman he has to constantly charge up. He wants a woman who has self confidence and self esteem.

Let’s not even talk about men for a quick second. Women have this ideal image of what we should look like and it doesn’t even come close to reality. We live in a world of airbrushed magazine covers and lots of silicon. In the previous blog I stated that a man will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. If you’re not willing to take the time and effort to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally, how can you expect to fulfill all of your partner’s needs?

A lot of women think having a man in their life is the only way they can feel complete. You are so wrong. Physical appearance will only hold a man for so long. If there isn’t anything behind the face he’ll get bored and leave. If you don’t have any confidence, then fake it. I personally believe that a woman shouldn’t date until she has become comfortable in her own skin and is stable enough to participate in a relationship without losing herself.

Bottom Line: Don’t be afraid to let the rabid dog in you come out. If you’re not willing to take the time to believe in yourself please don’t expect a man to do it for you. Like I’ve said before, a man wants to hunt but he doesn’t want to tenderize his meat before he eats it.