Smothering Mother

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies....

Where do we begin? Do you remember the exact moment in your last relationship when you knew something had gone wrong?? Where were you? Were you texting him? Maybe you were sleeping over for the FOURTH night in a row? This seems to be a recurring nightmare for many women. Women have this nagging habit of doing too much too soon. Text messaging, phone calls, emails, MySpace, Facebook and maybe even a few drive bys are ALL A BIG NO NO when it comes to new relationships. One of the biggest mistakes women make in a relationship is too much communication. A man wants to chase not be chased. If he calls, let it ring. Don’t return the call immediately; make him a wait a day or two. When you do call, don’t apologize for taking your time. He needs to know that you are independent and don’t need him. Let him know your time is priceless and he needs to earn it. In relationships women have a tendency to be at a man’s beck and call….WRONG! Unless you have a ring on your finger you answer to no one.

My dad always used to say, “Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?” I understand that everyone has their own personal view on premarital sex and that’s okay. If you decide to take the plunge and have a little premarital fun PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do it wisely. If you’re looking for a solid relationship don’t put out on the first date. A man will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. If he’s a good guy not only will he stay interested but he’ll also step up his game. He might call you a little more often or maybe want to go out more. Don’t take this as a sign to go crazy and forget everything I told you. You need to maintain your independence and slowly give him more of you. Sex is the final deal. No matter how much you learn about each other, spend time with each other or love each other the minute you engage in sexual intercourse you seal your fate. Unless you have confirmation or a ring as proof that your relationship is exclusive you should NEVER EVER EVER sleep with a man. If you give him too much he no longer needs to hunt because he has everything he wants. This is the point of your relationship when you see things start to go downhill. You’re putting 150 percent into a relationship and getting 20 percent back.

Bottom Line: Less is more. Don’t overdo it, let him come to you.