Have you ever watched those Lifetime movies where the girl becomes extremely psychotic and starts stalking “her man”? I’ve always wondered if she became crazy before or after she met him. Now granted there are some women who are just plain crazy and should probably abstain from any and all relationships but what about the women who were once normal? Why do they become so brain dead when it comes to guys?
There are always signs in a relationship that pop up to guide you to the right choice. Some women pay attention and others CHOOSE to ignore. The only problem with ignoring these signs is that the consequences can be very traumatic. How many times have you dated a guy who said he “wasn’t ready for a relationship”? Don’t lie to yourself, be honest. Now, how many times have you kept on dating that same guy thinking that you were the girl that was going to change his mind? Again, please be completely honest. NOW, how many times did you end up at your best friend’s doorstep with mascara running down your neck because he “broke up” with you and you don’t know why? This one can be quite embarrassing and I fully understand if you would prefer to skip to the next sentence. Now before we continue I just want to bring something to your attention. Technically he couldn’t have “broken up” with you because you weren’t in a relationship. That’s another mistake we make as women. We get so wrapped up in a man’s life that we make ourselves believe we really are in a relationship. Women are born fixers. We see a challenge and we have an overwhelming need to conquer it. It’s equivalent to a man’s need for a chase except his doesn’t have a 99.9% disaster rate.
When a man says he’s not ready for a relationship he’s basically telling you that he’s only planning on using you for whatever you’ll give him. One thing that truly enrages me is that a woman will still date a guy who says this. What’s even worse is when all is said and done they blame the guy and think he’s the jerk. Ummm HELLO!!! Didn’t he tell you from the beginning that he didn’t want a relationship? These words should be an automatic turn off and bells should start ringing in your ears (AND NO NOT WEDDING BELLS).
Bottom Line: When a man tells you he’s not ready for a relationship wait until the food and drinks are served and the check is paid and get the heck out of there. Don’t sit around and think of ways to change his mind. If you do you’ll end up naked, confused and looking like a raccoon.
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